So a friend of mine recently blogged re working in European vineyards in the Summer. Her friend had envisaged her sitting in the shade of a tree supervising the workers while the hubby of her friend had envisaged her actually picking-grapes. Well, considering she is no longer in her teens or twenties this was a little out of the mindset she now has.
Having said that, I would gladly work the summer picking grapes in a vineyard if 1) I could manage the stamina it requires and 2) it paid more than just enough for my daily keep. In fact, I suspect that no-one would offer me such work anyway when they knew my age because I am perceived as “Past it” in respect of a number of things I may wish to do.
It amazed me, as I back-packed and hostelled around Australia and USA a couple of years ago how many young people congratulated me on what I was doing and told me how great it was that I would “at my age” contemplate this mode of travel & holidaying. Strange really, as I have always felt that when you want to do something you just organise yourself and your life around doing it! Not so with many people though it seems.
And yet, I got to do, see and learn so much more than if I had simply organised some tour to escort me all over the place. Even if I had the money to afford the luxury style of travel and accommodation, I doubt it would have been so richly rewarding for me. In addition, the people I would have encountered would have been very different and I would possibly have felt restricted in my freedom of choice on what to do.
I have alway had a sense of adventure, ever since watching “Easy Rider” when I was a young girl and trying to convince my then boyfriend that we should take off and explore the world on his motorbike. He unfortunately did not share my “throw caution to the wind” attitude, prefering to opt for a life where I would marry him, set up house and have babies! So that was when I set off in a different direction, with the aid of my mother – god bless her and her Que Sera, Sera, attitude!.
One of the reasons I love India and the people I meet on my travels is the open-minded attitude that seems to pervade. The characters I come across often excite & challenge me. When you live in one place and deal with the same people day in and day out, you often become a creature of habit, wherever in the world you are. That is natural as that is the way of life that people settle into. However, I have always hated the habit-forming thing, and have tried to change mine as often as I can (the addictions like smoking and drinking taking longer than others to crack often). That is what also possibly why I have this Nomadic streak in me. Regularity of things generally as well as social rituals I try to avoid, although I do still conform to those that enrich my life and my psyche. Thus a Tuesday night social ritual at karaoke most weeks is fun (and can be very varied too) and is a chance to catch up with people, learn new things, etc.
How people perceive me is one for others to relate. I know that I am seen as a crazy lady by some, strait-laced by others, wacky & wild by some, boring by others, sexy by some and brazen hussy by others! LOL It really is all about perception and how you are inside yourself as to how you view & judge others that you don’t know that well. After, all, wWe all assess others by their responses and reactions to us, but if I percieve you to not like me does it mean you don’t like me or is there a shyness of spirit contained within that is only discovered by further interaction and probing? I try not to judge others before processing as much information as is available to me and that is when I tend to form my perceptions. However, perceptions are only one way of looking at things after all – What’s yours?